Society. Hypocrites.

We Indians are hypocrites to say the least. And dare I say that, WE love being what we are not and we hate what we preach . Last night, staring outside my apartment, all I could think was one word.

Denial.

This is what we all live in. We love to deny, even just for the sake of it. And this is where hypocrisy begins.

Have you ever felt, growing up that you were not allowed to do  the very things that were taught to you? The holy grail of honesty on which we must have spent a thousand pages each while growing up, goes into a toss when the very parents and teachers tell you ‘Its life. You have to learn to live the way it is!’.Ouch, wasn't that supposed to be something much simpler? When the lessons on Selflessness disappear the moment you have to step out of your house, ‘Beta, you have to be selfish to grow. Don’t share everything with everyone’ ,Just when you thought the great moment of sharing had begun! The lessons taught on everything except money just doesn't add up when you realize that you don’t even know how to open a bank account while kids in States are getting their hands dirty on Nasdaq. And when the realization creeps in that MONEY is everything. Well, almost everything. So what if It can’t buy happiness? At least it can buy things that make you happy! And then you curse everyone for teaching you all the useless stuff, while you could have done a simple course on Money management! All those lessons on modesty, where does it go when your own parents spend a fortune on your sister’s wedding and then, crib the rest of the life, how much it cost them! When they tell you that we love you beta more than anything and that the western culture is bullshit and they (People in the west) have no idea of a family. Now, when the moment to show love comes, when the greatest step in life is being taken by you, of choosing your partner, the very same parents will threaten you saying, ‘ we have done so much for you and you do this! We will choose your spouse, for, it’s the price you have to pay for what we have done for you’ and  you thought that love was what it was, till the Payback time! Talk of double standards! Or tell us this definition a bit early! When all the talks of responsibility goes into gutter and you are left wondering, ‘What the Fuck!’ And then the only thought that is there is ’Why couldn't they tell us all these while we were growing up!! Things could have been much simpler and easier.’ And this is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg!

And if you thought that I have something against parents, you are wrong! But then, we were never taught to think big or different! No surprises there! I have something against everyone, and that everyone is called society. To say that I am not a social person will be an understatement of the same degree to which I am talking. And in that one, I hate the word respect. ‘Beta, Money is not everything, Respect is.’ Alas, what they forgot to mention was the fact that they are one and the same. Money  brings respect and those who say that respect is what they live for, either have both of it or none of it! Period. There’s no exception to this one. And then, Sex. Oopsey, I forgot, we never heard that word. Forget it, When was the last time we saw our parents hug. I didn't say kiss, for you know why. And then we are told we know the meaning of love, not THEY.  Society told us that we just know what love is. The only thing, they forgot to mention, WHAT exactly it is! They thought we would know. And they thought  we would agree that they are right.

HOW COME?

And WHY?

The only thing that I get from this is we are not meant to have our own opinions! But we were never taught or allowed to have one, right? But more on this one later on. Let’s get back to SEX. Or did it even start? Fine, the world’s most talked about topic, most thought about, most planned about and the most fantasized about is never talked about at all! Imagine the plight of a teenager having CAUGHT having a condom in his/her pocket! And imagine her to be a girl! Or say, an I-Pill! The whole world will try to hang her! And then think of the same girl, having been never CAUGHT in the act, but, on a bed, being treated for AIDS! And  the whole society, again reprimanding her of the shame she has bought the family, including her own mother! This is what we call love! And we say we value our family more than them! We have never seen love in our family, yet we claim to love the way no one ever could. And to talk about sex, which is, of not more, as much important as money (AGAIN!) is what is never done. That’s what we need to know, for even if we accept that pre-marital and other stuff is wrong(I don’t), it’s better to know it’s wrong than not knowing what the hoopla is all about and, as with every other thing, the thing we are not supposed to do, WE DO. 

Isn’t that enough of a cue?

Denial!

We were taught that attitude is bad. And yet, when we come to know the greatest success stories, stories of those whom we were taught to emulate are some of the cockiest person the world has ever seen! The irony! Having opinion, we have learnt is the single most important factor in surviving and yet, I don’t remember a single time when we were encouraged to have our opinion! Leave that, we were not allowed to have an opinion on the job we choose to the partner we choose! We were always denied what we thought to be the best for us. And from there, we learnt to disagree, to deny everything that comes our way. For, this is what all we have learnt. And from this we have started a vicious cycle.

Indecision.

Meekness.

Double Standards.

Hypocrisy!

And yet, we  say we are the best! That Indian Culture is the best! And every time we have to give an excuse, it’s the same. Indian Culture is superior to the best. Is it so?

Part 2. Coming ..